Friend's changing personality!!!
Hi everyone, I'm new to this site. Hubby and I have been trying for a baby for 16 months now. We've had tests, and found he's find but I have PCOS. I have a non existant cycle, so we've been going to docs for tests and stuff. Well, I have a friend who has PCOS too, and she and her hubby were trying for just as long as us. She recently announced that she was pregnant from her first cycle of clomid. This is really great news, and I'm really happy for them! Please don't get me wrong! However, I have found it hard to deal with since we've been through all the tests and I'm on clomid and everything too, but it doesn't seem to happen with us! What's made is worse, is that she's now become a "smug mum-to-be" and keeps telling me to be patient and wait for it to happen cos "it will happen eventually". How does she know that? Can she guarantee me that we too will fall pregnant??
I'm sorry if I've rambled on. I'm just getting really frustrated with everyone patronising me/us with the "be patient, it will happen to you too" kind of talk. I just wanted to get it out of my system.
Anyone have any advise on how to deal with such situations? I feel like I want to punch someone!! (don't worry, I won't!)
xxx
I'm sorry if I've rambled on. I'm just getting really frustrated with everyone patronising me/us with the "be patient, it will happen to you too" kind of talk. I just wanted to get it out of my system.
Anyone have any advise on how to deal with such situations? I feel like I want to punch someone!! (don't worry, I won't!)
xxx
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Permalink Reply by nishlynn on -
Hey,
I just wanted to say hello, and welcome you to this site. I am in total agreement with you about the "smug mum-to-be" issue. My husband and I have been trying for close to a year now, with no success. He has two children from a previous girlfriend, and everytime she sees me she eyes my stomach to see if I've gotten pregnant yet. It's extremely annoying, and intrusive feeling. On top of the issue with my husbands ex, I have to deal with every single friend of mine being pregnant. I am having a hard enough time dealing with our inability to get pregnant, it isn't easy for me to see all of my friends having no problem getting pregnant. Every time we all get together they ask whether we are pregnant, and it hurts a little to tell them no. And they all say that "it will happen eventually" and "it will happen when the time is right." I hate those cliche phrases, no matter how true they are.
My husband and I have an appointment to start fertility testing in 4 weeks, so we'll be able to find out what's going on inside.
Anyways I know what it's like when you want to just scream.
Hoping for the best your you, and sending you Super Sticky Baby Dust.
Lots of Love
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Permalink Reply by Andrea on -
Hey,
Thanks for the reply. It's good to know I'm not the only one feeling this way! I sometimes find myself thinking "I wish everyone else would stop getting pregnant and having babies" and other hateful thoughts, and then go into a massive guilt trip because I've thought such things. And then I'll go through the whole thing again a few days later. It's like being on a rollercoaster ride, which isn't actually any fun and no way to get off!!
Joining this site and being able to speak freely about it has certainly helped me vent a bit. Thanks for listening to (reading) my ranting!
Lots of love and Baby Dust to all
xxx
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Permalink Reply by naomi on -
hi andrea welcome to the site, i know its must be very frustrating and im sure i would feel the same, but i think she might be saying this cos she doesnt know what else to say cos she may feel bad that she is preg and your not, i know i would. she cant be much of a friend if she is being smug knowing how you feel.
if you are feeling really bad maybe dont see her as much.
but i know what you mean about people saying just be patient, im not a very patient person and it just makes me worry more each month when i get a BFN. try and keep your chin up, naomi x x
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